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I don’t know a whole lot about you yet, but if I remember right, I kind of know you from end run and have possibly drawn one of your muses one time? my memory is crap. 

But I do know that you’ve sent me some really beautiful asks, and I see your username in my activity log a lot. And I just wanna say thank you for following me in the first place, I really appreciate your presence. c:

I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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I keep seeing you around more often, and it makes me wonder where you came from. Like I can’t remember if I know you from somewhere/something, or if you just appeared one day.
Either way I always love seeing your username pop up in my activity messages. It makes me feel special.

also I am so sorry if I do know you from somewhere/something and haven’t recognized you.

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You have often been the instigator of beautiful shenanigans and for that I am very thankful. For a long time, it’s been very difficult for me to escape reality and really get into anything. Your antics have always been really fun, and I always feel more like my old self when you’re around.
I kind of view you as a rival I suppose, maybe it’s because we share so many uncanny similarities.

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I feel like we’ve grown up a lot since we first met. I feel like we’ve drifted apart a little bit too. both of those make me sad, but I still feel really happy whenever I take any trips down memory lane. Nothing is ever going to take those memories away, even if we become completely different people.
And even though it feels like we’ve changed, I still love getting to peek in on you every now and then to see how your life is going.

I love you so much, you make me so proud, and I’m getting all sappy and crap but you gotta understand that you’ve had a really profound effect on my life. You’ve always been so supportive and I wouldn’t be the same person if I had never known you. and I just, I just want to say thank you, for everything.

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Oh man, you make me feel all kinds of nostalgia. I always really loved the dynamic our muses had back in the day, and sometimes I fantasize about how differently things could’ve gone. I hope that someday we can rp like we used to. I’m mad at myself because bfoi was suppose to be my second chance to do just that, but then I flaked out.
In any case, I always love hearing from you and getting to see your art. You’ve improved so much over all this time. :3

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